“Nervous,” was her answer to the dating site question. The only other response was “safe” and this is not how it feels! She took advantage of the “add an explanation” box:
I feel like I’m in the presence of a person with a gun and club who I can’t fully expect to be restrained by the same social codes as me. This is because cops have a privileged place in our society. People have a hard time seeing them as anything but competent and ethical. They’re understood as having been entrusted with a monopoly on the legitimate use of force. This trust is very basic. Violating it signals a disorder from within the so-called order that is often traumatic to confront. Because of that, they’re frequently supported by society, especially other police, when anyone says they’ve done wrong. Wouldn’t that make you nervous?